Being just the two of us, our couple culture has changed since our children grew up. Meals are really simple, I can afford more meat.
All the to-do list items have come down to just me and him. Our home is comfortable and fits the two of us.
Our couple culture are our patterns of relating to one another, such as our habits, also, who or what we spend our time with.
Each married unit has a couple culture, have you ever identified what that looks like for you two? What are some qualities that exemplify who you two are?
It’s important to think about because it enables us to be intentional in our lives.
Couple culture includes our minds, our hearts, and our souls. It’s the sum of each individual combined with the other. His distinct personality, his temperament, his spiritual development, combined with your distinct qualities of mind, heart, and soul come together to make your own unique couple culture.
Does your couple culture include a lot of humor, or maybe athletics, or maybe you two are readers? There are couples that have a beautiful garden or maybe a business they work together on. Some couples share entertainment together.
Are you the couple that has great intimacy and companionship? Do you relate to each other and understand without words? Maybe you are the couple we all kinda envy because your couple culture is based on your spiritually mature hearts, you serve with joy and as you work together our Father God looks at you with pride and says “Well done my good and faithful servants” If that’s you, WOW! Good job, not sure how you do it but keep it up.
For Don and me, our unique culture has had some troubles, you see, we are such opposites, I call him the Iron Engine, he’s like a strong, headlong train pulling heavyweights, determined to go the long distances, then there is me, the butterfly. I’m generally happy going from flower to flower without a care in the world.
We come together on things like hiking, or … HA! That’s all I can think of right now, I know there are other things we come together on, they just aren’t coming to me right now.
You see, Don and I have what we call, and as you read this imagine saying it with a twinkle in your eye and a voice inflection as if it’s a stinky condition, we have issues. We tend to be defensive with each other. Why we have those issues in another blog post but for here now, my goal is to explain that each couple has their own couple culture, to be aware of it.
Happily, for Don and me we are in the process of recreating our couple culture. We have a counselor we are going to, we are reading books together.
I can imagine that most couples that have been married many years, raised families and are now finding themselves as Happy Nesters meaning, just the two of them could be looking at each other wondering what in the heck happened? Did those 40 years really just fly by? And, who are you and what are you doing in my bedroom?
(That deserves its own blog post.)
That’s why we need to see that we share a couple culture, the just him and me in this world. There are so many different and important points that are necessary to consider but for now, my point is simple, we couples are the sum total of ourselves, our minds, our hearts, and our souls. Now is the time to ask ourselves what culture do we want to live in?